When you take the Centering for Wisdom™ Assessment your individual results are displayed in this kite graph. You can think of this graph as a visual way to represent the field of your awareness, and the four categories are different kinds of thoughts that float down the stream of your conscious awareness. You’ll see your average scores in each of four categories.
At the most basic level, the little boats that float down the river can be divided into two broad categories: thoughts and feelings (or emotions). For this video we’re going to explore feelings, emotions, and desires. I like to call this the Desiring Mind. You can check out my other video on the Judging Mind.
If you really get down to it, just about every decision you make is motivated by either a desire to increase pleasure or to avoid pain. That’s just how we’re hard-wired as people. So you can see on your scores that when you are pulled away from your center of wisdom and you become attached to pleasurable experiences, this is called “Attachment.”; and when you expend energy staying away from experiences that cause fear or pain, this is called “Avoidance.”
We need the energy of these basic emotions and desires in order to spur us into action, so they’re inherently good. Your Desiring Mind only becomes a problem when you go beyond noticing your desires and you become overwhelmed and distracted as they flood your awareness, drawing your attention and energy into a confusing mess. This de-centered state cranks up your anxiety and shuts down your natural ability to make wise decisions.
When you’re overwhelmed by these desires, you can come back to this affirmation, which is available at centeringforwisdom.com and in my free E-Book. You can even write it in your daily planner or tape it to your computer screen, and use it like a mantra:
I accept the present moment as it is. I observe my thoughts and emotions, without the need to control or manipulate the outcome.
Here is how Michael Singer puts it in his New York Times best-selling book, Untethered Soul: “Stress only happens when you resist life’s events. If you’re neither pushing life away [That’s avoidance], nor pulling it toward you [that’s attachment], then you are not creating any resistance. You are simply present. In this state, you are just witnessing and experiencing the events of life taking place.”
These practices are truly not all that difficult – the challenge is learning to recognize your reactions in the moment, to pause, then to come back to center, and only then to make important decisions from a centered space.
You won’t do this perfectly, because you’re human like the rest of us. But keep practicing Centering for Wisdom – it’s all about deepening your happiness, enriching the lives of others, and the common good of your community!
Please take a minute to follow our channel, and get your free E-Book and bonus gift at CenteringForWisdom.com. Peace, and thanks again for reading!